You may check his Facebook profile, but only for a few minutes.
For example, if you’re a Type-A workaholic and always wished you could ease up, you may be drawn to a laid back partner who isn’t detail-oriented.
These example might not describe your situation, but they illustrate a deeper point.
This emotional rollercoaster is as exhausting as it is thrilling. The worst possible thing that could happen is him leaving.
It’s a fear you can’t quite shake no matter how promising the situation looks, a fear that drives everything you say and do. You meet a guy, you think he’s nice and all, you have good conversation, he gets your number, and while you’re pleased, you don’t go into a tizzy over it.
After this encounter you can’t–for the life of you–get this guy out of your head.
You try to think about other things, but nothing works.
Since he’s so “perfect” you become afraid to be yourself–I mean, how could your true self MORE: Infatuation…the Silent Relationship Killer You don’t want to say the wrong thing and scare him off, so you aren’t genuine in your interactions.
You rely on his approval so desperately that you also become a bit needy.
You go out a few times, not expecting much, but soon enough your interest and attraction begins to grow.
Things feel calm, there’s no drama, no heart palpitations…it feels really nice. That’s because the first scenario illustrates everything we’ve ever been told about love.
For instance, if your parents always made you feel like you weren’t good enough, you may seek out guys who are full of themselves and treat you like you’re not worthy of their love in an attempt to rectify those feelings from your past.